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the high price of giving up

Photo by Vicky Lorencen

Photo by Vicky Lorencen


Have you ever wanted to quit on a dream? I have. I suspect we all have. Dreams are easy to carry when they are fresh and so are we. But they can feel burdensome once the real work begins. Little wonder we want to say “enough”!

Recently, at least two of my writing friends wondered if they should loosen their grip on their dreams and let go. Can you relate? Before you make that decision, may I offer some things to think about?

Will your life be better for giving up–will you feel free to pursue other things–or will you miss having a dream to chase?

Can you live with the wonderings and the what ifs–I wonder what would have happened if I’d stuck with it just one more year . . . sigh.

How will others be influenced by your decision to let go? Now, typically, when I’ve asked myself that question, my mind has automatically gone to the many, many friends who have been my cheerleaders, mentors and shoulders to cry on . . . what would it do to them if I said enough is enough? For certain, they would still love me. They’d understand too. Some might even envy me for taking such a bold step. But mostly, I would feel like I’d let them down. The same goes for writers I’ve tried to encourage along the way. If I quit, would it make them question?

But only last week, I realized I’d be letting down more than my writing friends. My teenage daughter told me, out of the blue, how much she admired me for having a dream and for sticking with it and having perseverance. Wow. I had no idea the ripples of my dream went out that far.

And so, for me anyway, quitting isn’t an option. I’m too far out in the ocean, too deep in the jungle or too far out in space (choose your metaphor!) to turn back now. And I’m glad to know you will be sticking with it with me.

When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.
~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

ready to get steamy?


Frog in the fog

In the inspirational little book 212 Degrees, The Extra Degree, bestselling authors Sam Parker and Mac Anderson explain: “At 211 degrees, water is hot. At 212 degrees, it boils. And with boiling water, comes steam. And steam can power a locomotive.”

I love this simple metaphor because it reminds me of what’s possible, if I’m willing to consistently apply just one extra degree of effort beyond my normal routine.

It’s related to what Carl Holmes calls the “And-then-some-syndrome.” It’s all about doing what’s expected, and then some.

I’ll be honest. I don’t always want to do what’s expected (or at least what I expect of myself writing-wise), let alone “and-then-some.” Some days I’m lucky to put finger to keyboard. Funny thing is, I’ll go out of my way for my family and friends or my boss and coworkers, but I’ll feel guilty carving writing time for myself. I truly believe we need to put others first, but does that mean I have to put my dreams second–or 999th? Shucks. Course not.

This week I’m challenging myself to pour on the steam with my writing time–by one sensible, do-able degree–guilt-free. I’m going to write four pages–and then some–this weekend (and the next, etc.). What can you do to turn the knob one degree to the right to crank up some heat?

Not sure?

Let me entice you.

If you go to my contact page by Friday, April 19, and tell me how you’re going to turn up the heat on your writing life by one degree this week, you’ll be entered to win a FREE copy of “212 Degrees.” I’ll be delighted to send it to you with my compliments. It’s a quick read that could have a lasting impact on your attitude toward your writing pursuits.

Ready to get steamy?

Many of life’s failures are [people] who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ~ Thomas Edison